The above statements is how the dictionaries define spanking.
For 'aficionados' this bland statement, although accurate, misrepresents the true 'pleasure and pain'
the adult spanker and spankee give and receive.
For a child it is a salutary lesson in correct behaviour while for us in the 'scene'
the confrontation between the hand and the bottom is
the start of the 'pleasure and pain'.
It is not the end but, to quote Winston Churchill, "the end of the beginning".
The first time a hand strikes a bottom the chemistry between the spanker and spankee starts.
Enjoy the 'pleasure and pain, pain and pleasure' an expert can offer
I cannot offer my
services to all of you but I can show you how you and your
partner can get the BEST out of Spanking and Bondage as well as
notes on SM.
Men and Women new to Spanking and Bondage often find that the terminology is difficult to grasp as it seems to change from event to event. Before anything else I will attempt to define the main names used in Spanking, Bondage and SM so that you are aware to what I am referring before starting these pages:
The Scene - A term often used to embrace all of spanking, bondage and sado masochism and the activities associated with them by participating members. It sets the 'parameters' around the 20-25% of the population who are interested in spanking, or participates.
Top or Spanker - This is the name used for the controller of a session. In spanking this usually means the person who is doing the spanking
Bottom or Spankee - This is the person whose 'bottom' is being spanked.
Dominant - This can be either sex but is the controller of the situation. If it is a man it is often abbreviated to 'dom' while if a woman 'domme'
Submissive - Again can be either sex but is the person being controlled. It is often abbreviated to 'sub'
Master - Male Spankers often use this when advertising but strictly it belongs to a Master/Slave relationship. As an example The Disciplinarian as a spanker but Master Prospero when 'owning' a slave
Mistress - Again used by dominant ladies who advertise their offices as spankers or who own dungeons and dress in leather. They also use more extreme 'discipline' than the conventional spanker.
Master and Mistress - The correct use of these words is much more complex. It is a relationship which is spiritual and mental as well as physical. It does not have to include physical punishment as the Master/Mistress and the Slave can be many miles apart. Masters and Mistresses OWN their slave. It may include almost any activity and frequently Slaves are branded to 'lock' them to their Master. Essentially the Master/Mistress takes total domination of the Slave; and the Slave is completely subservient to the Master and has no independent will of their own.
I must make one point.clear Spanking, Bondage and SM is for ALL - men spankers and women spankees; women spankers and men spankees; gay and lesbian; top and bottom; 'doms' and 'subs'. In fact every permutation of adults. It is not suitable for children or youmg adults under 18 years of age! My preferred age group for spanking and bondage is 25 years old to any age.
I will nail my colours to the
mast. I am a male 'dom' and spank women of all ages. I
will therefore normally in these notes stick to the man as the
'spanker', top or 'dom' and woman as the
'spankee', bottom or 'sub' because I understand
it best and also to avoid the trap of causing confusion. Where it
may differ will be obvious in any example I quote by physical
imperatives.This however is a 'convention' and all my
comments can be taken to apply to any combination of
'spanker' - 'spankee' or 'dom' -
Spankees come in all shapes
and sizes but for the spanker it is the physical bottom<
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examples of a ladies bottom which are perfect for spanking.
There is no right or wrong way when dealing with clients - it is up to the spanker to find the method which suits the client. It is always the client who is right!
Whatever you want to know about SPANKING and BONDAGE these pages offer suitable help! I do add a short section on Sado Masochism (SM) but, having no experience or interest, I leave it to the specialists. I quote books that you may wish to read if you find the subject interesting.
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